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“What chores do your kids do?”




Children’s Chores!?!
By Leslie Fetters


When did you first thinkabout chores for your kids? Did you have a great plan from the time they wereborn and you implemented it perfectly? Or maybe it was quite different.  It was at a playgroup when another momcasually asked, “What chores do your kids do?”  Did you feel confused, frustrated,defensive or guilty? Often, we work so hard to make sure our kiddos are fed,bathed, clothed, at appointments on time and finish their homework that timefor “their” chores seems impossible to find.   
Are any of the following your excuse:



    My kids are still too young for chores – Children are never too young to          understand that ina family, everyone helps out. Toddlers can pick up toys, put    clothes in the hamper, turn the TV off,help set the table and turn on the dishwasher. Most bigger chores build upon aseries of these baby steps anyway.


It’sjust faster to do it myself – Probablytrue. And you do the job “right.” However, if you put some time into trainingthem now, you’ll be rewarded with a child used to carrying his share of thehousehold load. This will help when life inevitable gets moving faster andfaster as the kids grow.


Theyalready know how to do chores –Knowing how to do something is verydifferent than being able to dosomething. Everything from sweeping to toilet cleaning to laundry takes somepractice. Learning these skills at home from mom (or dad) better prepares themfor living on their own some day.


Idon’t need the help – You might not needthose extra hands but instead of sparing them the effort, you’re denying themthe opportunity to work for the good of the household.  It is that contribution that makes themfeel needed and important to the strength of the family. Work with the team –win with the team!

These may be excuses you’veused before.  But I encourage youto grab hold of a better vision for your family: one full of skilled,responsible members who can get the job done so there’s time for fun!

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End The Chore Wars With The How To's

The three step plan to bring an end to Chore wars:

PLAN - PROCESS - PROBLEM SOLVING

PLAN

Step 1 - Create a list - of age appropriate chores. Click here for our list of chore ideas.

Step 2 - Tracking System - choose system that works for your family. You can create your own on computer or purchase one. There are a variety of ways and ideas from check off lists, wall charts, online chore charting systems etc.

PROCESS

Step 1 - Family Meeting- Get children involved in the process by allowing them to help choose their chores. Go over the chore charts or check off lists so they understand their responsibilities.

Step 2-Teach The How To's
- Have supplies available and at their reach.
- Model-show how to and don’t forget your attitude with your work load.
- Practice -Do it together-literally side by side training

Step 3 -Let Them Go.
- Encourage your child for a job well done when they complete a chore. Even if it is not done to your perfectionate way.
- When your child does their chores or additional helpful things on their own - make sure you tell them how much you appreciate it and what a great job they did etc. It will encourage them to continue to become more independent.

PROBLEM SOLVE


Step 1 - Make TIME for Chores - Make sure they have time to complete their chores by setting time aside each day or week to DO them.

Step 2 - Consequence - Make them clear, fair and consistent. If family responsibilities are not taken care of first then they lose a cherished privilege.

Step 3 - Rotate the TO DO list -Switch chores daily or weekly (makes it fair) and provides variety while teaches new skills.

Step 4 - Make it WORK- tweak the system - If your system is NOT working don’t feel like you are a failure mom in the chore wars, don’t quit--tweak it. Take time to evaluate what works and what isn’t working. Vacation, sport schedules, ages and stages and other changes requires flexibility.

For this mom it was wanting to end the “Did you do this? Did you do that” and not just their chores but brush their teeth, practice piano etc. so I began the check off list and it worked for us. I have even been known to take daily check off lists on vacation with me so they do their responsibilities of course tweaked a bit.

End result - Chores teach kids responsibility and that they are part of a family community its not about what system you use, if you pay or don’t pay it is about YOUR family and what works for you to bring a little less stress to your home each day.

Age appropriate chore list

Chores For Kids Of All Ages


Age appropriate chore list.

2-3 years old

Make bed- begin with pull up covers
Pick up toys and books- use bins, boxes or totes. (limit toys -limit mess)
Dusting- use old socks and allow them to dust along side you
Set out napkins for dinner
Unload dishwasher, their utensils/plates/bowls- have their items on low shelves/drawers

4-6 year old

Set table and clear off dishes
Empty dishwasher- plastics and silverware
Clean room/toys
Make bed
Pick up dirty laundry-use small laundry bags/basket
Put away clean clothes
Feed pet
Prepare simple meals, breakfast or lunch
Garbage collector- empty small garage baskets
Water plants

School age 7-11

Make lunches-/pack school lunch
Clean kitchen
Sweep/mop floors
Vacuum
Beginning laundry- sort and fold
Clean inside family car-remove trash and vacuum
Empty garbage
Pick up yard-weed, rake and/or sweep
Help with younger siblings
Wash sheets and make bed
Unload/put away groceries

Teens

Clean kitchen
Clean bathroom; sink, tub, toilet
Clean garage
Wash car
Wash windows
Mow grass
Cook simple meals
Laundry-collect, sort, wash and fold
Mop floors
Babysit younger siblings so mom and dad can have date night
Vacuum house
Ironing
Driving teens can begin to do grocery shopping
Clean out and organize their own closets and dressers
Take trash out - for garbage man